Thursday, February 2, 2012

Back in the 170s ....and....Other Bloggers You Should Read Today To Lose The Fat and Gain Your True Identity! (Plus added hubby pics for "Allie", and Thanksgiving me Pics in '09 and '11....worth a few thousand words)

Tanita-san: 179.8  Well, that's a psychological relief.

I'm boring today. Seriously. My brain feels all bland and gooey.

But I have been reading some non-boring fatfighter bloggers, and maybe you should,, too. Let's start:

Here's a quote from today's post by the keen-brained SCREAMING FAT GIRL:

Control is about avoiding stagnation. It's about not being trapped in your own head and body and being unhappy with where you are. It's also about not spending all of your time and energy convincing yourself that you are happy staying right where you are because you feel there is no place else you can go. It doesn't have to be about weight, but often in fat acceptance circles, that is pretty much what it is about. They preach a message of "can't control, don't try, just accept". I don't like that message, not because I care about people being fat (I truly do not), but because I think that the message should be that you can be what you want to be, not simply be told you'll never have enough control to be anything else. That goes for everything, not just weight.

I totally needed that post today. We're in a life crux--things will HAVE to change--and I fear some of the hard stuff ahead. matter what direction the upcoming change goes, I need to embrace it and how it will bring me closer to who I want to be. I want to be adventurous and open-minded and courageous, not stagnant and neurotic and fearful.

I think my body's wonkiness lately is what is making me fearful again, uber-neurosis rising. The knees. The joints. The toes. The energy dip. Aging in general. It makes me want to self-protect. But that's not gonna take me where I want to be mentally, spiritually, or physically. I need to embrace...risk.

I am risk-averse. I tell you, really. I could live in a cocoon, spoonfed, I think. I almost once did, at my highest weights and sickest years. BUT..that's not who I WANT TO BE.

Anyway, Screaming Fat Girl's blog is a great read for those who need that body transformation. She did it and she knows how to elucidate the inner workings of it, and for some of you, that can lead to an epiphany, or at least a strategy.

If you need to lose weight, especially a lot, and if you're a bingey overeater, please read her post on REWIRING. I can attest to it. These have been MY stages in rewiring, me, the gal who started a diet at 10 am only to blow it by 7pm. I couldn't stay on a plan to save my life. The few times I did for a month or more, and never more than a couple months, it came back on in double time. This time was different. And this time reflected the stages in her post.  I went through it; she went through it. Only she writes them down clearly, stage by stage, and doesn't ramble freakily like me. Maybe it will help.

I liked it so much I added it to my "links for fatfighters and health-seekers" list, sidebar right.

Okay, next:

For those who are lower carb or Primal, etc, and wonder why Asians eating so much darn starch in the form of rice aren't bulging out all over, here's a great read by Mark Sisson.   Diets and movement...they all need to be taken in context. It's not just about rice (or starch, even). It's the whole shebang. You can't keep a lot of weight off without changing MORE than just how you eat today. You have to start thinking of changing a lifestyle, for sure.

And lastly:

Chris over at A DELIBERATE LIFE is doing a great challenge and post series. It's worth checking out for things to ponder and motivation. I loved this quote from a terrific post a few days ago:

I can eat whatever I want, whenever I want.
I just choose not to..
because I want health more than I want that ice cream, or soda...or pizza...or chips.
Nothing tastes as good as becoming the kind of  person I admire.
Nothing feels as good as showing the people I love that they are important enough to hang around be healthy for...that includes Me!
When you eat well, and are being your own best friend..

I want to be someone I admire, and I don't admire out-of-control people. I want to be IN control. I want to be disciplined. I want to be diligent. I want to be persistent. Weakness, hedonism, selfishness, gluttony: I don't admire that. I can empathize with it, but I don't ADMIRE IT. I don't RESPECT it. When I was self-indulging and self-pitying, I did not admire or respect myself. I respect myself a lot more NOW, because I had to work HARD HARD HARD CRAZY HARD to get here. When you put in effort and ACHIEVE goals, week by week, it builds esteem. No kidding. It does. It's like the high you get getting great grades and holding that degree. You worked for it. It's like craftsmen must feel building a house with their own hands. A sense of satisfaction from diligent work and not stopping until something good is created.

And I have to work hard to STAY here or make some more progress. So daily, I have respect for the me that doesn't revert to slug-glutton mode. And I like me so much more now. I don't say nasty things to myself anymore. I work on being more positive, in believing in myself more, even when neuroses rear their heads. I work on being affirming.

I have other areas where I need to work, create, achieve. And I want that wonderful sense of accomplishment. I want to like myself MORE.

I want to act in ways consistent with the me-I-wanna-be.

There's a lot of great blogging in the weight loss bloggy world, and those three bloggers are worth checking out. Not just cause two of them dropped oodles of poundage and one is a leader in a health-revolution type movement. That matters. But also read them cause they are smart folks who are great communicators, each in his/her own different style. They have valuable things to share to help the rest of us.

Now...go be the you that you want to be.

And be well...

Oh, and just for ALLIE (who commented re my booful boo), here are some recent pics of the man who has made my heart go doki-doki and bathump-bathump for 30 years....

New Year's Eve smile...still my fave face!

He used to have 60+ extra pounds...
The lovebirds last Thanksgiving Day...
For comparison: Wedding day, June 1983

My birthday, Feb 1983 (We're the taller two, hah)
I was normal weight--145 lbs.

To Show What Controlled Eating and
Exercise Can do: Me, Thanksgiving 2009,
that's a 2 years and 2 months the 260s.
He was about 20-25 lbs heavier here.
We're both shaggy. hah.

In summer 2000, in the 250s.
He's stunning. I'm ...BIG.
Wider than my hubby.

Rejuvenated Royal Couple of Amour!

Yeah, I like how I look TODAY, 12 years, 2 years later, better. :)


Finding Me, One Pound at a Time said...

Great information, thanks for sharing!! And, keep up the good work. It sure is paying off. :-)

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the links to some great reads!

Karen Butler Ogle said...

Great post today, Princess. Thanks for the links and inspiration.:)

Anonymous said...

Quite the contrary on being "boring" today. Timely, helpful reminders you shared! Totally off topic -- lord I hope I'm not stepping on any one's toes, not intended at all! -- seems like it's been a long time since you've mentioned your husband...hope he's doing well too. I've always enjoyed seeing your pics and the happiness you guys exude! :D Allie

Anne H said...

To quote Bartleby.... I would prefer NOT to!

Princess Dieter said...

Allie, he's wonderful, as always, the ever-lovely prince in my life. I mentioned him in my previous post, as he's "dating" me tomorrow. :D Day off, smooch time! Thanks for worrying, but the one thing that's steady as a rock and always joyful in my life is dat man. He's amazing. And sexy as heck. :D

Anne, I rememeber that Melville story. How weird was that dude, and how prescient of so many folks I know in this millenia. ; )

Thanks, all, and I'm glad I wasn't TOO boring. :D

Kelly the Happy Texan said...

You have a cute hubby! :)

And a BIG congratulations for getting back in the 170s! I'm working my way back. I'm afraid I had a bit of fun in December. Oops!

NewMe said...

If you'd like to see another point of view, please visit my blog and read my response to SFG's post.

Betty said...

Lovely couple! I love how much you are still in love with him.
I´m going to check out those links. I need some inspiring... :)

Katie J ♥ said...

Thank you for sharing the pictures and other bloggers.

Also thanks for your comment on today's post. You hit the nail on the head for sure!

Mrs. D said...

Thanks for sharing those, always looking for more inspiration!!

And girrrrllll.. check you out!!! You guys look AMAZING, and more importantly, HAPPY!!!!

Nanette said...

you guys are beautiful! I love your progress pics! Super inspirational!

Beth said...

I love seeing the old photos. You look great, what a handsome couple you two make and I really enjoy feeling the happiness between you. It reminds me to enjoy the love I have for my husband.

I agree re the discipline and being in control - it's something I admire, it's something I want. It's something I had and I want it back. I am ready to fight for it, I hope.

I'll check out the blog you linked first, I haven't seen that one before, I believe, like I know you do, that reading maintainers is absolutely key to success. Learning to maintain is the bottom line business, it's what's important. I just can't do this yoyo thing anymore, it's terrible for my body and my mind.

I am similar to you in that I like a static life, I struggle with all the change that having a child with long term illness and special needs brings, it's tough, it's a roller coaster, there's very little that is static. I guess we learn to cope with what comes our way or we suffocate under it's weight.

Have a good day. xxx

Caron said...

You are never, ever boring and you gave us a lot to digest (yea, no calories) in this post. Thanks for recommending other writers. I added the Daily Apple to my already long reading list yesterday. Love the pictures too. :)

Jordan said...

Great info. I've been reading Mark Sisson, but the other two are new to me. I agree with you and other commenters that reading other maintainers will be key. I have a fear that my weight will come back on and I'll powerlessly stand by and watch (while stuffing my mouth) - I NEED to see examples that show me that it's not 100% going to happen and I DO have power to make a different outcome happen.

Chinagirl said...

I am always so happy, when I see other couples that are still in love with each other after such a long time. I hope, I can get old with my hubby like you.
Just yesterday I showed my husband a picture from me from 16 years ago on Facebook. My friend posted it. She scanned it. I look so thin there, but when he saw it, he said: "You just look like now. But now you are so much more beautiful. You much better know how to dress yourself now!" That was such a compliment for me.
I bet, your husband also is just loving your new body and gives you lots of compliments. Enjoy them all. You look so healthy and beautiful now.

screaming fatgirl said...

Thank you so much for your kind words about my blog and for sharing yourself as you do here. It's all very appreciated.